Podcast E4: A Woman's Wildness
The podcast "A Woman's Wildness" is a talk by Mette Miriam Sloth exploring the challenges and potentials women face in the modern world. The talk draws upon Mette's experiences from her practice, where she observes a recurring pattern in women: a deep, inner wildness often suppressed by societal expectations and inherited patterns.
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A Woman's Suppressed Anger and the Path to Authenticity
Mette Miriam Sloth argues that women have been taught for generations to suppress their anger, as it has not been considered appropriate or attractive. This suppression can lead to an accumulation of anger that can manifest in unhealthy ways, such as passive aggression, self-destructive behavior, or excessive people-pleasing.
To break free from these patterns, it's necessary to connect with one's anger and integrate it in a healthy way. This can be a challenging process, as it requires courage to confront the internal and external expectations that hold us back.
Women's Aversion to Conflict and Confrontation: From People-Pleasing to Boundary Setting
Mette Miriam Sloth observes that many women struggle to handle conflicts and set boundaries. They fear creating imbalance in relationships and losing the acceptance of others, which can lead to a constant adaptation to others' needs.[1]
Mette Miriam Sloth encourages cultivating the ability to set boundaries and stand by one's opinions, even if it feels uncomfortable initially.[1][2] It's about exercising a muscle and starting small by saying no in safe situations.
The Perfectionism Trap and Accepting Vulnerability
Mette Miriam Sloth points to perfectionism as a common trap for women.[1][2] They may feel they must be perfect to be good enough and deserve love.[1] This fear of failure can paralyze them and prevent them from taking risks and fulfilling their potential.
Instead, Sloth encourages embracing vulnerability and accepting that we cannot always be perfect. It's about learning from mistakes and seeing them as opportunities for growth.
Female Tribes: Support, Change, and Processes of Letting Go
Mette Miriam Sloth emphasizes the importance of strong female communities ("queen tribes") to support and inspire each other. These communities can provide safety, understanding, and courage to break free from old patterns.
At the same time, Mette Miriam Sloth acknowledges that relationships can change as we evolve and move in new directions. Sometimes, we may outgrow old friend groups or ideologies, which can be painful but also necessary for our personal growth.
The Paradox of Motherhood: Reclaiming Energy and Finding Balance
Mette Miriam Sloth describes motherhood as a transformative experience that can awaken deep love but also challenge women's boundaries and resources.
She points out that it is essential for mothers to take care of themselves and prioritize their own needs to avoid burnout. This may require setting boundaries, seeking support, and finding creative solutions to balance giving to the child and meeting one's own needs.
Sexuality, Life Energy, and the Path to Love.
Mette Miriam Sloth views women's sexuality as a powerful source of energy and creativity. She argues that healthy sexuality is interconnected with self-acceptance, authenticity, and the ability to be in touch with one's feelings.
Mette Miriam Sloth encourages moving from the need to be loved to being love. This involves finding an inner source of love and joy that is not dependent on external validation.
Listening to the Call and Embracing Change
A recurring theme in the talk is the message of listening to one's inner calling and daring to pursue one's dreams, even if it requires change and breaking away from familiar structures.
Mette Miriam Sloth encourages embracing life's cycles of death and rebirth, as change is necessary.
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Hey everyone and welcome to the deep dive uh where we you know take deep dives in all kinds of fascinating topics.
Yes. Exactly right.
And today's episode's going to be a little different.
It is
because we are actually um AI hosts and uh we were commissioned by men Miriam Sloth and Sune Sloth.
Yes.
The minds behind the Danish podcast, The Magdalene Effect.
Yeah. They had this really interesting idea to kind of bring the show to an even wider audience.
That's right.
And so they've tasked us uh with essentially doing a deep dive within a deep dive.
I love that.
into the Magdalene effect.
Yeah. So, we're gonna be taking all of the amazing uh conversations and insights that they share on their show, right?
And kind of distilling it down for you today.
Yeah. Kind of giving the spark notes version, if you will.
Yeah. Exactly.
The cliff notes.
The cliff notes.
Um and the Magdalene effect really is all about exploring the, you know, the complexities of the female experience and especially in today's world.
I think it's something that so many people can relate to. Um And we're going to be covering a lot of ground today. So,
we are
buckle up.
Yes. Get ready.
Get ready for some serious aha moments.
You're going to have a lot of them.
So, some of the concepts that we're going to be unpacking are things like the feminine core.
Yes.
Um the mask of masculinity and also untamed rage.
Ooh, that's a good one.
I know, right?
Yeah.
Now, I know these terms might sound a little bit abstract right now.
A little woo woo.
Little woo woo, but trust me.
Yeah.
They get to the heart of some really important and really universal truths.
Oh, for sure.
So, let's start with the idea of the feminine core.
Okay.
What is that?
So, this is one of the core ideas, I guess, in the in the Magdalene effect. And it's really all about uh you know, this essence that a lot of women identify with.
Yeah. And it's not necessarily about fitting into any kind of stereotype.
No, not quality.
It's more about recognizing a certain energy or a certain way of being,
right? It's like a quality, not category.
Exactly. And the show creators often compare it to like the fluidity and power of water.
Oh, I love that because it's always, you know, in motion it's adapting. It's shaping the world around it.
Yeah. It's like this wellspring of intuition.
Totally.
And creativity and also like deep emotional expression
and cyclical too, you know.
Yes. Very cyclical.
Like the moon.
Exactly.
But the challenge is that, you know, we live in a society that often prioritizes uh more traditionally masculine traits.
Yeah. You know, those are things like linear thinking. structure,
structure, assertiveness, all that good stuff.
Right. And so it can be really tricky to navigate that. It can
when you feel like you have this very strong feminine core.
For sure. Because it's like you're trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
Exactly. And this is where it gets really interesting because
the Magdalene effect isn't about pitting these energies against each other. No,
it's not about feminine versus masculine,
right? It's not a battle.
It's about recognizing that we all have both of these energies within us.
We do.
And it's about finding a way to integrate them.
Mhm. M yeah and you know a lot of women have actually adopted a lot of those masculine attributes out of necessity
because you know in order to succeed in a world that you know frankly wasn't really designed for them.
Yeah. Like they had to put on a certain mask to get ahead.
Exactly. And you know that's where that mask of masculinity comes in.
Right.
But the problem is when we overidentify with those traits.
Yes.
You know we can end up feeling disconnected from that like deeper feminine core.
And that's where I think A lot of the burnout comes from
Oh, absolutely.
A lot of frustration.
Yeah.
The sense of like not enoughness.
Yeah. Or like being inauthentic, you know?
Exactly. And so the mandaline effect really suggests that the key to finding balance is to integrate both of those energies. Yes.
The masculine and the feminine.
Marry them.
Yes. And to embrace our natural flow.
Totally.
While also being able to like step into that more structured actionoriented energy when we need to.
Right. And I love that image of like embracing our natural flow because you know if you think about a river you can't force it to flow in a straight line.
You can't
it's just not natural.
It's going to want to meander.
It's going to find its way.
It's going to find its way and it's going to create something beautiful in the process.
Absolutely.
So, are we ready to dive into some deeper waters?
I think so.
Okay,
let's do it.
Because the Magdalin effect doesn't shy away from the more like raw and often suppressed emotions that a lot of women experience.
Totally. And especially this idea of untamed rage.
Oh
yeah.
So what is that all about?
So this is not just like your everyday frustration, you know, right? This is like deeper primal anger that can stem from, you know, generations of societal expectations and suppression.
Yeah. It's like this fire that's been smoldering beneath the surface for a long time.
Yeah. And it's waiting for the right moment to just erupt.
And you know what? Sometimes that eruption can be incredibly liberating.
Oh, yeah. For sure.
I think a lot of women can relate to that feeling of like
Yeah. Yeah. Finally letting it all out.
Like I can breathe again.
Yes. Exactly.
And you know what's interesting is that the Magdalene effect suggests that this rage is often like most intensely felt during motherhood.
Oh yeah.
Like think about it. You've got the pressure to do it all. The constant sacrifice of your own needs
and the societal judgment that can feel really relentless.
Oh my gosh. Yes. And it's not just the external pressures either. It's also about the internal conflict of trying to
juggle all the demands of motherhood with, you know, your own desires for like self-expression and fulfillment.
So, it's like this paradox. It is
where you have this incredible all-consuming love for your children.
Yeah.
But also this yearning for something more
totally
yourself
and that yearning can sometimes come out sideways.
It can.
And that's okay.
It is.
It is.
Yeah. And the Mageline effect really encourages women to honor that yearning.
You know, even if it comes out as anger or frustration,
right? Because it's a sign that something needs to shift, that a part of you is ready to break free.
It's like that inner wild woman is trying to get your attention.
Totally. And what's fascinating is that the show also connects this untamed rage to the realm of female sexuality.
Oh, that's interesting.
Yeah. They suggest that when one is suppressed,
the other often suffers as well.
That makes a lot of sense to me. It's like reclaiming your power
in all areas of your life.
Exactly. And recognizing that, you know, your sexual ity is an integral part of who you are.
Yeah.
Not something to be ashamed of or hidden away.
And speaking of embracing the fullness of who you are.
Yes.
The Magdalene effect also talks a lot about that hunger for validation.
Oh yeah.
That so many women experience,
especially from other women.
Yes. And it's not just about wanting to be liked. No,
it's about this deep yearning to be seen,
to be heard,
to be understood.
Yes. For who you truly are.
And a lot of times I think this hunger stems from, you know, societal conditioning
for sure
that tells us we need to be a certain way or look a certain way.
Yeah. Yeah. Or achieve certain things,
right? To be worthy of love and acceptance.
And the show uses this really relatable example of a woman who runs into a former colleague at the supermarket.
Oh, yeah.
And it's this seemingly insignificant encounter. Right.
Right.
But it triggers all these negative emotions in her
because she doesn't receive that like warmth and recognition that she was hoping for.
It's like that encounter becomes a mirror. Right.
Reflecting back all those insecurities and doubts.
Exactly. And it highlights how deeply ingrained this need for external validation can be.
Yeah.
But here's the key takeaway.
Okay.
True validation can't come solely from external sources, right?
It has to come from within.
It has to start with you.
Yes. It's about learning to recognize and accept yourself.
Flaws in all of it.
All of it. Yeah.
The good, the bad, the ugly.
It's about silencing that inner critic,
right?
And replacing it with self-comp. passion.
Yes. And love.
So much love.
And that's a journey.
It is.
But it's so empowering because you're no longer dependent on others.
Yes.
To determine your worth.
You are enough.
You are.
So, let's shift gears a little bit. Okay.
And talk about something that's really important to me and soon.
Yes.
And that's the power of female friendships.
Those queen tribes.
Yes. The queen tribes
is so important.
These supportive circles of women who come together to share their exper experiences
to celebrate their strengths
and just offer a safe space for each other,
a soft place to land.
Yes, exactly.
No, it's like having each other's backs.
Yeah.
Offering a listening ear and reminding each other of their inherent worthiness.
It's like a network of roots.
I love that. All intertwined and supporting each other
through those storms,
through thick and thin.
Yeah. But here's the thing.
That's
sometimes as we grow and evolve
Yeah.
we might outgrow certain friendships or communities. That's true.
And it can be a painful process.
It can be like a shedding of skin.
Yeah. To make room for new growth.
But it's important to honor that grief, you know, that sense of loss because it means you've allowed yourself to change and expand.
And that opens up space for new connections and experiences.
Exactly. Ones that are more aligned with who you're becoming.
And that leads us to another really important theme. And that's the paradox of motherhood.
Yeah. Such a good one.
I know.
The Magdalene effect really dives deep into the complexities of this experience.
Yes. Acknowledging both the immense joy and love,
right,
as well as the challenges and sacrifices
because there are a lot of them.
There are.
And they talk about this overwhelming pressure that so many mothers feel
to be perfect.
Do it.
Never show any cracks.
The superm mom myth.
It's exhausting.
It is.
And it's no wonder so many women end up feeling burnt out and resentful.
Yeah. Like you're trying to pour from an empty cup.
Exactly.
You can't give what you don't. have.
And so the Magdalene effect really encourages mothers to honor that call. Yeah.
To reclaim their energy
to refill the cup.
To refill the cup even if it seems to contradict, you know, their current values or lifestyle,
right? Because it's not selfish.
It's not essential.
It's essential. And you know, it's about recognizing that being a good mother doesn't mean sacrificing your entire self. It's about finding ways to nurture your own needs and desires
while you're also pouring love and energy into your children.
It's a balancing act for sure.
It is. It really is. And I think what's so powerful about the Magdalene effect is that they don't just highlight the problems, right?
They offer solutions. They do
like really tangible things that women can do.
Exactly. And one of the big ones is setting boundaries. Yes. Both in your personal life and your professional life.
Such a good point.
It's about learning to say no to things that, you know, drain your energy or just don't align with your values.
And it's about creating space for the things that really matter to you.
Yeah. Whether that's spending time in nature or pursuing a creative passion or just having some quiet time alone.
Exactly. To recharge.
And that can be really tough for women.
It can.
Especially, you know, we're often conditioned to be people pleasers, right?
Put everyone else's needs before our own.
But it's so important to prioritize ourselves
that it's not selfish.
No,
it's essential.
Selfare.
Exactly.
And when we take care of ourselves, We're so much better equipped to show up for everyone else.
For sure.
Now, I know some people listening might be thinking, "Okay, this all sounds great." Yeah.
All this talk about the feminine core and and embracing my wildness, but how would I actually apply this to my life,
right?
Like, what are the practical steps?
And that's the beauty of it. You know, the Magdalene effect isn't about giving you a step-by-step guide or a set of rules to follow.
It's more about a framework.
It is. It's like offering a new lens through which to view the world
and yourself. and yourself. Exactly. It's about recognizing those patterns and the societal expectations,
right?
And those internalized beliefs that might be holding you back
from living a more authentic and fulfilling life.
Exactly. And once you start to see those things Yeah.
you can start to make conscious choices
that align with your values and your desires,
you become the author of your own story.
I love that.
And so I think the big takeaway from all of this is that the journey of embracing the feminine core.
Yeah.
It's not about a achieving some kind of like idealized state of perfection,
right? It's not about being perfect.
It's about growth. It's about evolution. It's about self-discovery.
It's about becoming more and more you.
Exactly. It's about learning to trust your intuition, to honor your emotions,
to find your voice.
Yeah. And to really believe that you have the wisdom and the strength within you to create a life that truly lights you up.
So well said.
Thank you.
And that is a journey worth taking.
It is.
So, thank you everyone for joining us on this deep dive into the Magdala Yes. Thank you.
We hope you found it insightful and inspiring. And if this conversation has sparked something within you,
Yeah.
we encourage you to check out the original podcast.
Yeah. It's amazing.
It's full of wisdom and vulnerability and even humor.
Lots of laughs.
You'll feel seen. You'll feel understood and you'll feel empowered.
Absolutely.
So, until next time, keep diving deep.
